Withholding Love

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

When we’ve been hurt, we put up walls around our hearts to protect them. When we have a “heart wall,” we cannot give or receive love fully. If you go through the healing process, you can release the pain of the past and choose to open your heart and love without fear. So this is … Read More

Emotional Stress

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

Dr. Maté, MD, teaches that emotional stress is a major cause of physical illness, from cancer to autoimmune conditions and many other chronic diseases. The brain and body systems that process emotions are intimately connected with the hormonal apparatus, the nervous system, and in particular the immune system. This is why it is imperative that … Read More

“Yearn to Better Understand”

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

Another pastor, Jarrid Wilson, committed suicide on Monday. This is a picture of Jarrid with his wife and their two sons. He was 30 years old. In reading some friends’ posts and comments about this, it reminded me that many in the Church don’t understand mental health and the need for inner healing. They blame … Read More

Repetition Compulsion

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

We are often drawn to unsafe connections because they feel familiar. There is a psychological theory for this called “repetition compulsion.” This is where we have a tendency to repeat situations that feel familiar. For example, if someone grew up with a parent who verbally abused them, they may subconsciously seek out relationships with abusive … Read More

Healing the Wounded Child Within

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

In 1 Corinthians 13 (the love chapter), Paul talks about putting away childish ways. In order to do that, we often need to heal the wounded child within. These are some signs that you may have a wounded inner child: You feel that there is something wrong with you. You often experience anxiety. You’re a … Read More

Seen and Heard

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

We all have a need to be seen and heard. If you were neglected or ignored in childhood, you may believe that you are not worthy of love, not important, and not valued. This belief gets reinforced later in life in relationships where you don’t feel seen or heard. You may even attract people who … Read More

Come to the Table

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

Let’s make room at our tables for those different than us. Let’s choose to love instead of fear. Let’s choose to embrace instead of exclude. You are worthy of being loved well. You are worthy of being seen and known. You are worthy of belonging. If you don’t feel loved and accepted at the table, … Read More

Heard and Validated

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

We feel invalidated and unheard when we are ignored or judged when we express our emotions. If you want to validate someone and help them in their healing process: Show that you are attentive and present by giving verbal responses and using body language to show you are listening. Focus on listening. Avoid interrupting or … Read More

Emotional Triggers

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

Emotional triggers reveal unhealed wounds. The emotional response can be anger, fear, sadness, etc., or physical symptoms such as nausea, shaking, panic attacks, etc. To heal emotional triggers, it is important to acknowledge them and shift any beliefs that you formed during the initial trauma. It is often helpful to work with a therapist, spiritual … Read More

Self-Love

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

Learning to love ourselves is key in our healing process. When we’ve been wounded, we often form negative beliefs about ourselves. At the core of every wound is a belief that we’ve accepted about ourselves, such as “I am unworthy of belonging,” “I am unlovable,” or “I am not good enough.” In order to transform … Read More