Seen and Heard

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

We all have a need to be seen and heard.

If you were neglected or ignored in childhood, you may believe that you are not worthy of love, not important, and not valued.

This belief gets reinforced later in life in relationships where you don’t feel seen or heard. You may even attract people who will ignore you or neglect you because it is familiar.

You are worthy of love. You are important. You are valued.

Come to the Table

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Let’s make room at our tables for those different than us.

Let’s choose to love instead of fear.

Let’s choose to embrace instead of exclude.

You are worthy of being loved well.

You are worthy of being seen and known.

You are worthy of belonging.

If you don’t feel loved and accepted at the table, maybe you need to find another table. 💥

Heard and Validated

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We feel invalidated and unheard when we are ignored or judged when we express our emotions.

If you want to validate someone and help them in their healing process:

Show that you are attentive and present by giving verbal responses and using body language to show you are listening.

Focus on listening. Avoid interrupting or interjecting.

Repeat their words back to them, so they know you have heard them. For example, “What I heard you saying is…..”

Ask clarifying questions and help them elaborate on what they are feeling.

Avoid giving advice or sharing cliches.

Ask how you can help.

Emotional Triggers

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Emotional triggers reveal unhealed wounds.

The emotional response can be anger, fear, sadness, etc., or physical symptoms such as nausea, shaking, panic attacks, etc.

To heal emotional triggers, it is important to acknowledge them and shift any beliefs that you formed during the initial trauma.

It is often helpful to work with a therapist, spiritual healer, or a coach to find the root of the trigger and process the feelings involved.

The more you heal your emotional triggers, the more emotionally free you will be. ❤️

Self-Love

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Learning to love ourselves is key in our healing process.

When we’ve been wounded, we often form negative beliefs about ourselves. At the core of every wound is a belief that we’ve accepted about ourselves, such as “I am unworthy of belonging,” “I am unlovable,” or “I am not good enough.”

In order to transform those beliefs, we must accept the truth of our goodness, our value, and our loveliness.

Love yourself and be kind to yourself today. Treat yourself with loving compassion.

The more you love yourself, the more you will be able to love others. ❤️

Shame

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I have observed that shame is often at the root of loneliness and isolation.

Loneliness can cause so much suffering. It can even cause premature death. Those who are lonely have a higher risk of heart disease, dementia, and other health issues.

To love and be loved is our most basic human need, but shame can cause us to disconnect and distance ourselves from others.

What would it be like if you were free of shame?

It’s possible if you do the healing work! ❤️

Love Heals

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The three most important factors in health, vitality, and longevity are feeling listened to, cared for, and supported.

Dean Shrock, PhD, author of WHY LOVE HEALS, cites scientific proof that love heals. His research concluded that people live longer when encountering a major illness when they feel listened to, cared for, and supported – all core aspects of love.

When you experience unconditional love, it sends a message to your cells to repair and rejuvenate. ❤️

It’s time to live!

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

A survival strategy is something you or your body does automatically, in order to survive in a dangerous or unpleasant situation.

Your brain is trying to keep you safe and will often automatically go into “fight, flight, or freeze” mode.

When we have experienced trauma, we also adopt coping strategies in order to survive. For example, we might turn to food, alcohol, drugs, or some other addiction, in order to numb the pain.

In order to break out of survival mode, and to really live our best lives, we have to do the healing work.

Emotional Healing with Essential Oils – Kalispell, MT

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Saturday, September 28, 2019

9:30 AM – 4:00 PM MDT

Toxic emotions are oftentimes the source of emotional pain, relational difficulties, and physical illness.

By releasing toxic emotions, you can experience vibrant health and harmonious relationships. The technique taught to release toxic emotions involves the use of therapeutic-grade essential oils.

Topics Covered:

  • How early childhood trauma affects us as adults
  • What to do when triggered – dealing with fight, flight, freeze survival patterns
  • Healing generational trauma and breaking generational patterns
  • Releasing shame and learning to love yourself
  • Turning off the stress response and rewiring your brain for joy
  • Demonstration of how to release toxic emotions

Pre-registration: $20 (On or Before September 26) or $30 (At the Door)

Location:

Mountain Meadow Herbs, 1019 Hard Rock Road, Somers, MT

(Lunch Break 12:30 pm to 1:30 pm – Local Restaurants or Bring Your Own Lunch)

Two-Hour Private Personal Sessions Available: Contact Kari Browning at 208.640.9292 or email: info@newrenaissance.us for more information.

To Register:

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/emotional-healing-with-essential-oils-tickets-69462258485

Children of Narcissists

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

There is a difference between narcissistic behavior (which is displayed every now and then) and full-blown narcissism.

There are two kinds of narcissistic parents:

Parents who see their children as extensions of themselves. They become obsessively involved in the child’s life. They don’t respect boundaries and feel threatened when the child begins to individuate from them.

OR

Parents who have very little interest in their children. They neglect to take care of their children or show an active interest in their lives.

Either of these two extremes are damaging.

If you’re the child of a narcissist, you will likely struggle with:

Codependency (Take care of others needs at the expense of your own)
Poor personal boundaries and the inability to say “no”
Chronic guilt 
Toxic shame (Feel unworthy of love and belonging)
Low self-esteem
Self-hatred
Unmet Love Needs that Result in Addiction Issues
Trust issues
Inability to express or handle emotions (resulting in emotional numbness)
Anxiety or depression
Being a people-pleaser

You can recover and break the cycle! 😀