Projection

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

Projection is a defense mechanism in which individuals attribute characteristics they find unacceptable in themselves to another person.   For example, someone who is rude may accuse others of being rude, or someone who is being unfaithful may accuse another of being unfaithful, etc.   Jesus addressed this when he told people to get the … Read More

Mother Heart of God

Kari BrowningBlog, General

God is Spirit. He chooses to reveal himself in Scripture through language that is both masculine and feminine.   So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. (Genesis 1:27)   He created them male and female and blessed them. And he … Read More

Addiction

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

We have been losing “the war on drugs” because we are not addressing the root issue, which is emotional pain.   According to Dr. Gabor Mate, an expert on addiction, children who endure trauma often grow up to have insufficient supplies of certain essential “reward” chemicals in the brain, such as endorphins and dopamine. This … Read More

Shame and Disrespect

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

We all know what it is like to be shamed or disrespected.   For some, it is an ongoing battle because they find themselves in an abusive relationship or in a job or church culture that traffics in shame.   When someone shames or humiliates you, the most important thing to remember is that no … Read More

Self-Abandonment

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

Self-abandonment begins in childhood. If your parents didn’t meet your emotional and/or physical needs in childhood, you may have formed a core belief that you are unworthy of love and belonging. I have observed that we tend to repeat our childhood trauma. We repeatedly attract people who will not meet our needs because it’s familiar. … Read More

Trauma Bonds

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

Trauma bonding is when a person stays in a destructive relationship and is loyal to the abuser. Trauma bonds often occur in relationships with narcissists, relationships with addicts or alcoholics, or in domestic violence situations. They can also occur in cult-like religious groups. If you experienced abuse from a parent or caregiver who also loved … Read More

The Honeymoon Effect

Kari BrowningBlog, General

Dr. Bruce Lipton, a cellular biologist, writes about the “Honeymoon Effect” and how it affects our health. When we fall in love, our eyes twinkle. Our affection isn’t just limited to our partner; rather we are in love with life itself and it shows. He urges us to rewrite our perceptions so we can create … Read More

Kingdom Culture

Kari BrowningBlog, General

The Kingdom of Love has a much different culture than what is found in most Evangelical churches. In the Kingdom of Love, we are taught to bless and not to curse those that persecute us. In the Kingdom of Love, we are taught to live in harmony with one another. In the Kingdom of Love, … Read More

Projection

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

Projection is a defense mechanism where someone denies their faults and attributes them to others. They accuse you of doing things that they themselves are doing. It often involves blame-shifting and shaming. When someone projects, blame-shifts, or shames you, there is a temptation to explain yourself, defend yourself, or prove your point. If you get … Read More

Meet me There

Kari BrowningBlog, General

Jesus told us to beware of the leaven of the Pharisees (hypocrisy) and Herod (political power). Churches and individuals that have been influenced by this “leaven” will demonize anyone who doesn’t agree with their beliefs. They begin to believe that “the other” is evil and that they are the enemy. It creates a culture of … Read More