Projection

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

Projection is a defense mechanism in which individuals attribute characteristics they find unacceptable in themselves to another person.   For example, someone who is rude may accuse others of being rude, or someone who is being unfaithful may accuse another of being unfaithful, etc.   Jesus addressed this when he told people to get the … Read More

Addiction

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

We have been losing “the war on drugs” because we are not addressing the root issue, which is emotional pain.   According to Dr. Gabor Mate, an expert on addiction, children who endure trauma often grow up to have insufficient supplies of certain essential “reward” chemicals in the brain, such as endorphins and dopamine. This … Read More

Shame and Disrespect

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

We all know what it is like to be shamed or disrespected.   For some, it is an ongoing battle because they find themselves in an abusive relationship or in a job or church culture that traffics in shame.   When someone shames or humiliates you, the most important thing to remember is that no … Read More

Self-Abandonment

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

Self-abandonment begins in childhood. If your parents didn’t meet your emotional and/or physical needs in childhood, you may have formed a core belief that you are unworthy of love and belonging. I have observed that we tend to repeat our childhood trauma. We repeatedly attract people who will not meet our needs because it’s familiar. … Read More

Trauma Bonds

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

Trauma bonding is when a person stays in a destructive relationship and is loyal to the abuser. Trauma bonds often occur in relationships with narcissists, relationships with addicts or alcoholics, or in domestic violence situations. They can also occur in cult-like religious groups. If you experienced abuse from a parent or caregiver who also loved … Read More

Projection

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

Projection is a defense mechanism where someone denies their faults and attributes them to others. They accuse you of doing things that they themselves are doing. It often involves blame-shifting and shaming. When someone projects, blame-shifts, or shames you, there is a temptation to explain yourself, defend yourself, or prove your point. If you get … Read More

Safe People

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

Years ago, a wise teacher told me “not everybody is safe.” I tend to trust people too easily and too soon. In the past, I’ve handed over my power to people who are not safe or trustworthy. Unfortunately, I have repeated this lesson over and over again. Being able to trust realistically and to discern … Read More

Grief

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

Many are experiencing grief right now due to the loss that the pandemic is bringing. The loss of normalcy; the loss of connection; the loss of finances; and, for some, the loss of loved ones. Many of you are acquainted with the five stages of grief that were outlined by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross: denial, anger, bargaining, … Read More

Strengthening our Immune System

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

Stress and unhealthy eating habits can influence how we think and how we feel. There is evidence that our thoughts and feelings affect our immune system. Our immune system protects our body against viruses. If we are experiencing fear, anger, or other emotions that activate our stress response, then hormones are released that have an … Read More

222

Kari BrowningBlog, Healing

God often speaks in dreams, visions, and riddles. It is like getting pieces to a puzzle. I’ve been sharing some 2/22 stories recently and today I’d like to share another one. On November 17, 2003, I had a dream. In the dream, John Wimber’s secretary called me and said John was coming on the same … Read More